Hello GORGEOUS! Welcome to BIG FAT HAPPY LIFE!
I am launching this blog with a great sense of pride and love. My Mom died on September 10, 2011. She was my SHERO. She was a walking ball of Southern wit, sass, wisdom, inspiration, and love. She was all that and a big bag of chips. For years, I watched my mom coach and mentor hundreds of people, without ever making any money. She helped women of different colors shapes and sizes put their lives back together, which was a pretty big feat for a poor, black woman in Montgomery, Alabama. My Mom was the Tony Robbins of the projects, baby! She wasn’t down with the fire walking, but she was quick to do a group mastermind over a home cooked Sunday dinner!
She left me the greatest legacy a girl can have: the ability to mentor and coach others, and that’s why I started BIG FAT HAPPY LIFE. This is a blog for those of you who need a little somethin’ somethin to motivate and empower you to make the most of what you have now in order to have a Big Fat Happy Tomorrow.
One of my mom’s favorite sayings was, “Girl, you better love your own damn self!” TRUTH!
BIG, FAT, HAPPY LIFE is here to help you love your own DAMN self. It ain’t about the size of your bank account (girl, what’s $1 million dollars x 10- all that?) or your boobs (mine are currently scrubbing the side of my chair after having three damn kids) or how old you are ( I will be 29 for the 15th time this year) or the color of your skin ( delicious mocha, dammit!) ; it’s about how happy you are. I’m pretty damn happy for a fat, black, old, mental millionaire!
I love my own damn self, and I intend to grow a community of women of all shapes and sizes who love themselves,too. Society has a way of working a number on us. Society tries to divide and conquer using stupid ass, arbitrary definitions of beauty and success. Society can kiss my BIG FAT BLACK ASS! Can I get an AMEN? I answer to THE ONE, not the many.
I can’t tell you how many years I’ve wasted worrying about fitting in, being accepted, and being afraid to just be me. Well, that has all changed. I am living a BIG, FAT,HAPPY LIFE.
I am not waiting until I lose 20 more pounds, get the perfect hair, until the kids are out of the house, until I can afford it. I am living a BIG, Fat, Happy Life right damn now…because tomorrow I could be a big black woman trapped in a little bitty casket…
It is my intent to provide the BIGGEST! FATTEST! HAPPIEST! LIFEY-EST! content on the planet! I am searching high and low for experts…or just regular folks who write, who are passionate about leaving the world a little better, who are interested in being part of a beloved community, and most importantly, are interested in helping others to “LOVE YOUR OWN DAMN SELF!” If you’d like to submit a guest post on happiness, wellness, something funny or fun, inspiring, motivating, spiritual with a “loving” God message (sorry, don’t do fire and brimstone…) send it to bigfathappylife at (g) mail dot com. Keep in mind, we don’t do fat shame or self hate up in this piece, and I will cuss you out and activate the prayer chain on your evil ass if you come up in here with that.
Today is a new beginning for me, and I hope it is for you, too! Welcome to your BIG, FAT, HAPPY LIFE!
Now, in order to activate the prayer chain on someone’s evil ass is there a specific procedure? Do we submit names directly to you? How much (if any) detail do you require regarding the offense?
Candi- You are more than capable of praying the fool out of somebody! LOL. You could give me lessons, girl!
ROFL!! I … CAN’T … BREATHE !!
From my understanding of the prayer chain, I think it is activated for the most egregious offenses — and it’s your call. Her call (keeping in mind, this is as of the first post only) is fat shame and self hate. You can activate it yourself, but I’ll bet she may be willing to intercede.
Karen, Love you girl I can think of a couple offenses by “some” people that need a few prayers right now! giggle!
That’s a fact! And it looks like lots of folks agree that you’re one righteous blogger!
You go girl!!! When my Mom died 4 years ago (she was my hero as well) I decided I was through trying to live for everyone else, it was time to do what God called me to do. It makes you realize that life is too short to be majoring in the minors. So I for one am rooting you on! Go get em’!!!!
Thank you so much, Theressa! The death of so many close friends and both my mom and dad in the last year has just made me want to live…OUT LOUD! Thanks for the encouragement!
When I turned 60, I decided right then and there to never do anything else that didn’t make me happy! As fate decrees sometimes, I haven’t always been able to follow that decision but I sure do try!!! Oh, I have my days of pity parties and all that stuff…we all do…but when I see the sun set on my beautiful Tennessee River or see a photo of a sunrise in my beautiful Smoky Mountains, I just take a minute to thank God for the blessings. And there are way too many to name…!
I grinned my entire way through this post! I can’t wait to see what comes next!
Girl, girl — I don’t think I could love this ANY more! Congrats to you m’dear. We are truly soul-sisters from a different mister. I happen to be winding up a year long road trip and rockin’ my own brand of bodacious beauty. Shouting from the rafters that we should all Rock What We’ve GOT! So happy to see you doin’ it loud & proud — xoxox
Now that is one awesome, kick-arse first blog post …. Love it and can’t wait for the next one!
I love this mantra!
What an AWESOME mantra!!
I love your energy! Can’t wait to hear more =)
I LOVE you and I loved this post. Laughing out loud, for real!
What a great blog! I love it! I am sorry for the loss of your Mom. So glad you are going to share this wisdom : )
Brilliant.
Congratulations on your first post, and a beautiful one it is! It made me laugh, but also brought a little tear to my eye…I can hardly wait to read more!
just found you..I am sometimes an ANGRY WHITE WOMAN, but that doesn’t illicit fear
I think you are HILARIOUS!